“When I let go of who I am I become who I might be” Tao Tze

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I wrote the following blog 5 years ago. 5 years on I couldn’t have said it any better…and I have created the next phase of my life since. Oh my gosh I’ve done it. It takes tenacity, trust, and lots of reframing plus loving yourself enough to keep visualising the life you can feel, touch and taste. The unconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between real and imagined.. so imagine away my friends. Reach out for it because you are the creator in every thought you have. Delete the doubts and the mistrusting thoughts and re envision what you want. Do it every day in every way. It works!!
I am reblogging because I really want to let everyone know that Dreams really do come true!! It’s up to you!

Authentic Living

Seventeen years ago I had a clear picture of who I wanted to be.

I had just separated from my husband of 20 years and together we had two boys aged 2 and 5. I had no job outside the home or, until then, no clear vision as to where I, personally, wanted to go having been fully immersed in motherhood for the last 5 years.  A fine balance of unprecedented joy and mental, emotional and physical challenge. With the help of a good friend I began looking forward at where I wanted to go and who I wanted to be.  That picture became a reality. Today I am that woman. I feel her, think her and behave just the way I had pictured. The journey was steep at times but I was led to all the appropriate teachers to learn what I needed to learn to become ‘her’.


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Dancing for self reflection

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I had the best experience today. I went dancing at the Convent in Abbotsford.

I have been resisting going to this very popular Sunday event for years. Along with two hundred other self expressed people dressed in flowing fabrics or gym gear or scimpy tops and shorts, I rocked and swayed, encircled and expressed my inner self with hand movements that intertwined from the earth to the heavens. I remembered how much I have always loved to do improvisational dance … often only on my own. Today, however, I began to move as soon as I entered the doorway and paid my $15, as though I had always been there. Comfortable with moving my body; It so knew what to do. 

Everything is allowed on the dance floor at  ‘Sweat your Prayers’ except stopping to chat. (No not sex, this is a heart centered space) The music changed rhythm throughout the two hours to allow new awareness within for those who gave themselves totally to the music. Some hugged for the longest time, others danced in unison while others swayed solo with eyes closed  in inner dialogue with their deepest self.

I recognized my own patterns of behaviour just by being amongst these fellow dancers and intentionally changed them to include others in my fluid movements and rhythmic hip swaying, like a conversation in passing only totally with the body. 

I highly recommend this for anyone who wants to learn about themselves whilst moving to good quality music with like minded people who respect your space and expression no matter how you move.

Curious? Might see you there.



Achieving Dreams – blogged by Oriah Mountain Dreamer

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Oriah is one of my fav writers. Had to share this…. It resonates so well with me.

“Last week someone sent me an interview question that left me staring blankly at the computer screen. They asked: “What’s the biggest, most personally fulfilling dream you’ve achieved to date?”

It’s not that I’ve never wanted to achieve things- I have and I do. I want to finish writing a book in the next ten months, spend some time in the wilderness this fall, get to bed by nine tonight.

Do I dream of bigger things? Well, I hope my writing contributes to the world- but I am aware that that dream can be fulfilled by touching one person or offering something that thousands feel is useful. I can’t make either happen and I’m not at all sure that one is “better” than the other except perhaps in its capacity to pay my rent. Not that rent paying is unimportant, just that I’m not sure it is an “achievement.” Furthermore, I can’t really know where or with whom my writing may be helpful. I write mostly for myself and for the love of writing.

The “achievement” is in getting words onto the page, enough to fill a book that hangs together in a kind of wholeness and points to something that is true. This was and continues to be my dream, and I want to do it again and again- deepening, opening, allowing more and more to come onto the page. I did not dream of having a best selling book, and although I am deeply grateful for the opportunities this has brought, I don’t think of it as an achievement as much as a blessing, a gift. Let’s face it- there are many truly good books that do not sell (and a few stinkers that do.)

Perhaps my problem with the question is that my “dreams” are more about process than product, and I associate achievement with the latter. To-do list in hand, I can be as goal-oriented as the next person, but mostly I am focused on learning. Wanting to learn, I taught- creative writing, shamanic ceremonies, meditation- so I would have company on the road of exploration. I’m a good teacher mostly because I am excited to be learning in the process.

I could not have dreamt of the two wonderful men who are my sons and all that they have taught me about life and love and healing. They are gifts of grace in my life. My parenting was less an achievement than a close call with my own unhealed, unconscious self. That they turned out to be magnificent human beings is more testament to their spirits than my parenting.

None of this is false modesty. Truly. It’s just that my use of the word achievement would be applied to things I doubt the interviewer would consider dream-worthy. Like, this week I did my practise of prayer and mediation each day before I did anything else. This is an achievement, something that deepens my awareness and lets me take care of my own life and the world to the best of my ability. It’s the piece I can do something about. It’s a one-day-at-a-time kind of achievement, difficult to see from the outside and unlikely to garner standing ovations.

I do have bigger dreams. I dream of continuing to find and practice what heals us and helps us heal the world together. These dreams aren’t achieved as much as they are stirred by flashes of insight, awakened by moments of compassion, supported by a mysterious and sacred Presence within and around us. It’s not that work is not involved, but mostly it’s about getting out of the way so grace has a chance to touch and work through me.

And maybe that is the core of my dreams for my life: to be able to step out of the way and allow the words to flow onto the page, to let the practice bring me to stillness, to willingly follow the guiding hand of grace. But truly, these aren’t dreams that are achieved as much as they are welcomed when they visit and leave me filled with awe and gratitude.”

Oriah (c) 2013

Finding your Way Home

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Reblogged from Thegodmolecule

There is a tribe in Africa where the birth date of a child is counted not from when they were born, nor from when they are conceived but from the day that the child was a thought in its mother’s mind. And when a woman decides that she will have a child, she goes off and sits under a tree, by herself, and she listens until she can hear the song of the child that wants to come. And after she’s heard the song of this child, she comes back to the man who will be the child’s father, and teaches it to him. And then, when they make love to physically conceive the child, some of that time they sing the song of the child, as a way to invite it.

And then, when the mother is pregnant, the mother teaches that child’s song to the midwives and the old women of the village, so that when the child is born, the old women and the people around her sing the child’s song to welcome it. And then, as the child grows up, the other villagers are taught the child’s song. If the child falls, or hurts its knee, someone picks it up and sings its song to it. Or perhaps the child does something wonderful, or goes through the rites of puberty, then as a way of honoring this person, the people of the village sing his or her song.

In the African tribe there is one other occasion upon which the villagers sing to the child. If at any time during his or her life, the person commits a crime or aberrant social act, the individual is called to the center of the village and the people in the community form a circle around them. Then they sing their song to them.

The tribe recognizes that the correction for antisocial behavior is not punishment; it is love and the remembrance of identity. When you recognize your own song, you have no desire or need to do anything that would hurt another.

And it goes this way through their life. In marriage, the songs are sung, together. And finally, when this child is lying in bed, ready to die, all the villagers know his or her song, and they sing—for the last time—the song to that person.

You may not have grown up in an African tribe that sings your song to you at crucial life transitions, but life is always reminding you when you are in tune with yourself and when you are not. When you feel good, what you are doing matches your song, and when you feel awful, it doesn’t. In the end, we shall all recognize our song and sing it well. You may feel a little warbly at the moment, but so have all the great singers. Just keep singing and you’ll find your way home.

Your inner Goddess by Michele Peppler

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Some women walk into a room and just instantly grab your attention. They aren’t necessarily the most beautiful, well-dressed, smartest or well-known in the room, and yet somehow both women and men gravitate to her.

This magnetic energy, is the presence of a woman who has embodied her inner goddess. She has nothing to prove, not needing to compete with other women in the room, instead celebrating them as her fellow sisters. She isn’t concerned with how others may be judging her, how much cleavage she is showing or not showing for she knows that her true power lies not in her external appearance, or how she may be perceived, but in her deep understanding and acceptance of who she really is.


She has learnt that the most powerful and beautiful thing about her is not the clothes or make-up she wears, the position she holds in society, nor the words that come out of her mouth, but in the inner light she radiates.

When a woman finds and connects with this part of herself, forgives the disowned parts of her being sheds the masks of protection she has worn and allows herself to be completely authentic in her self-expression of all she is as a woman, she simply becomes a beacon of light.

And it is in her ownership of her own goddess light, she gives permission for others to shine their own light also. This is the way of the goddess – she is not just in some of us, she is in all of us and you can start invoking her today starting with these quick tips to tune into your inner feminine power, turn on your goddess light and amplify your womanly radiance for success and fulfilment at work, in relationships and in life.

Goddess Tip 1 – Bring more playfulness into life

In today’s modern society it’s easy to get bogged down in the masculine energy of ‘doing.’ To do lists, productivity, problem solving, outcome driven agendas. Whilst all necessary parts of who we are, we are only meant to be in this state of ‘doing’ some of the time, not most of the time – which in today’s world of economy and industry in not often the case!

For most women our natural state of being and where we are in our element, lies in invoking our joy. Usually this is through cultivating things like co-operation, collaboration, compassion, intuition, creativity, playfulness, movement, feeling and healing. When we spend too much time in ‘doing’ we become burnt out, overwhelmed and depleted of our life force energy.

Conversely when a woman is empowered through alignment with her natural feminine qualities she becomes exactly what the universe intended her to be: sexy, sensual, articulate, intuitive, joyful, radiant and magnetically attractive.

With all the responsibilities we have in life, it’s incredibly important to make time to let more playfulness in. If you’re feeling depressed, anxious or stressed ask yourself ‘When was the time I played? When was the last time I danced? Sang in the shower? Laughed out loud for no apparent reason? Rolled around on the ground with my kids? Had a food fight?’ Life’s way too important to be taken seriously all the time, let your inner child out once in a while.

Goddess Tip 2 – Be authentically YOU

Always be yourself – unless you can be a unicorn, then always be a unicorn’ – Peter S. Beagle

You are born unique. That’s just how it is. You were not born to be anyone else and it is not possible to be anybody else. YOU WILL NEVER BE ANYONE ELSE. Of course you may recognise a quality in someone else you find admirable, or inspirational. But guess what? It is impossible to perceive something in another that is not already within you anyway.

Comparing yourself to anyone else is ABSOULTELY pointless, you are never, ever, ever going to be anyone but you, so why try? (Unless you can be a unicorn of course!) I’m not going to get on a soap box here for too long, but a lot of the reason why we compare ourselves to others is because of mass media portraying an idea of what is acceptable, desirable, beautiful and important. There’s an industry built around trying to make you feel like you can’t measure up, making you feel inadequate for just being you, and it’s all B.S.

Always be the best version of YOU. You might have heard it before, but it REALLY is not about your looks, smarts, achievements, how well you can hold a conversation, or how good in bed you are. There is nothing sexier, more alluring, engaging or enchanting than a woman who is totally authentically comfortable in her own skin. It’s in the way she moves, holds herself, laughs, how she connects with people from a place of power and warmth at the same time.

Goddess Tip 3 – Express yourself creatively

Whether you think of yourself as creative or not, as women we are the master creators – we are specifically designed to bring new life into the world and breathe life into the birth of new things. Being creative does not mean you have to be an artist. Creativity is pure life force energy. Everything in life stems from creation, whether creating a meal, a garden, a spreadsheet or a work or art. Creativity engages right brain (intuitive) thinking, and is a form of expression of the soul.

If you don’t have a creative outlet, find one fast! Having a creative outlet is imperative for getting out of you what, if left inside, can manifest as destructive behaviours. Without being able to express ourselves creatively we shut off this extremely important part of ourselves which is needed to balance the rational/logical right side. Many women who don’t express the creative parts of themselves may see this unexpressed energy channeled into negative areas such as drinking, shopping or socialising excessively.

Create just for creations sake, not to show anyone, just pour your soul into whatever it is you enjoy doing. Schedule 10 minutes per day or 1 hour a week and notice how good you start to feel. If you can’t think of what you’d like to do, think back to what you enjoyed as a child, or take something up you’ve always wanted to.

Goddess Tip 4 – Do more of what you love

Sounds simple but this is the key to being happy. Being happy makes you joyful. And being joyful makes you the most attractive force in the room. Many of us sacrifice what we enjoy doing because we think we should be doing something else. Being responsible mothers, capable career women, compassionate care-givers, we tend to over-give and under-receive.

Let me let you in on a secret – if you’re not doing things you love often, chances are you are not as happy as you could be. And, if you’re not happy, neither are the people around you and they are not getting the best part of you.

Honouring yourself enough to make time for doing things you love to do means you’ll be more alive, awake and energised and you’ll end up having more to give, be more productive in other areas and feel vital and enthusiastic towards life.

This not only makes you feel good but a pleasure to be around.

Goddess Tip 5 – Cultivate your sensuality

A woman who delights in her senses is absolutely mesmerising to watch. Why? This involves getting out of your head and into your body, fully feeling the aliveness of the present moment and not getting stuck up in mind matters of the past and the future. It is what makes a woman juicy and ripe. Feeling pleasure in our physicality allows us to say YES to life! One of the reasons a woman who is having a lot of sex becomes more attractive to men is because she has been revelling in the pleasure of her body and her senses.

There’s plenty of ways to cultivate your sensuality without a partner too. Turn the music up loud and dance your heart out. Really taste and savour your food. Take deep slow breathes and feel the oxygen permeate your lungs with cool air. Take your shoes off and get out in nature, feeling the earth, sand or grass beneath your feet. Practice Yoga or some other movement meditation. Close your eyes and tune into the sounds around you one at a time. Take a bubble bath, and explore your body in the bubbles by lightly running your hand over your lips, arms, breasts, belly etc.

By Michele Peppler printed in http://smarthealthywomen.com   July 2013

Inner contentme…

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Inner contentment or being at peace with who I am, or that I am, has me know all is always well. Therefore everywhere I am and every situation is okay no matter what. Perhaps that is what we mean by confidence. Acknowledging my True self in every moment can only equal Love. Because that is who we all are in Truth.

If only life were that simple

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When looking for gluten free recipes I came across the gluten free goddess, Karina. I loved this blog of hers under the breakfast bar with quinoa and choc chips recipe… quinoa-breakfast-brownie-bars_o

As the breakfast treats were baking I started thinking (always dangerous). I started pondering (even more dangerous) why certain people believe they have things AFO. All Figured Out. And they’ll tell you so, of course, spooning out advice in words that taste metallic. Like teeth fillings. They have all the neat little answers for you, judged and predigested, wrapped snug in tidy psychic ribbons.

If only life were that simple.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not yearning for simple. I’m not six years old.

I can handle complicated. I can chew for hours on ideas that are tough and wiggly and mysterious, and arrive at no final conclusion whatsoever. I can sleep on it and wake up with nothing but songs and dreams in my head that will color the day with glimpses of what might be possible. I don’t need to hammer the challenging and mysterious into a mold I can easily grasp so I can feel more comfortable in the world, believing it is fixed. So I can stop asking questions. So I can say, I have the answer.

I am, in fact, okay hanging in the tension of opposites.

I don’t need only good, only pretty, only nice, only light, only clean, only sweet, only happy. And isn’t that a valuable thing? Because the last time I checked the world was a mash-up of good and bad, beautiful and ugly, gentle and cruel, luminous and dark and cool and filthy and calm and angry and laughable and profoundly, deeply sad. And often, really ironic.  So here’s the thing.

The older I get, the more I learn, the less certain I am. Of anything. I don’t have all the answers. I don’t always know what is best or what is true. And what is right for me may not be right for you. And what may be right for me today may be wrong for me tomorrow.

But one thing I do know?

There are places on this earth where you feel you belong. And places you will always feel like a stranger.  An outsider.  A tourist. There are places and people and days that grind you down. And harden you. And there are places and people and days that soften you. Soften your heart. And you know what?

I want that.

Karina   –  Glutenfreegoddess.blogspot.com